Many retainers are always worried that they will lose all the benefits of semen retention after a relapse. They try to recover the lost semen through certain diets, worrying that the relapse will ensure that they lose all their progress.
As someone who has practiced semen retention and relapsed several times, I assure you that you only lose many benefits after a relapse when you ejaculate several times within a long period of time, let’s say a month. This will happen because frequent ejaculation will ensure that you lose large quantities of sperm and life-force energy.
There are some benefits you won’t lose if you relapse and then limit masturbation or sex to twice a week. These benefits include your ability to access the astral world and the lack of desperation for women. I’m saying this because even when I relapse, I’m never desperate for women due to the realization that I can control my sexual urges.
Moreover, when I relapse and fap or have sex twice a week, I still access the astral world through out-of-body experiences. Semen retention is what enabled me to effortlessly have an out-of-body experience without practicing any astral projection techniques. My first out-of-body experience happened naturally when I retained for over a year.
I thought I would never have an out-of-body experience after my first relapse, but surprisingly, I continued having them. However, I realized that they stop happening when I ejaculate every day.
What I mostly discovered on my semen retention journey is that you won’t lose any benefit after a single relapse. The only loss that happens is in your mind. This loss happens when you destroy the benefits of mental calmness and inner stillness by excessively judging yourself after a relapse. Excessively judging yourself creates mental noise, and mental calmness and inner stillness can never be experienced in a noisy mind.
If you accept that it’s normal to relapse and you decide to start afresh, you won’t lose a single benefit. The energy or sperm lost in a single relapse is too small to have any effect on the benefits you’ve built.
My only problem with a relapse, especially through masturbation, is that a single ejaculation triggers a strong urge to masturbate again, and that temptation can be hard to resist. It’s as if your body remembers the pleasure, and your mind starts chasing it. That’s why one relapse can easily turn into multiple relapses, and why it feels so much harder to regain control right afterwards.
It takes extraordinary willpower to relapse just once through masturbation and then continue retaining your seed. The desire to masturbate will grow stronger, making it impossible to retain for a long period.
The stronger the desire becomes, the more your mind is consumed with it. Controlling your sexual urge transforms into a constant mental struggle, a battle between your discipline and your instincts. The question, “Should I masturbate or not?”, dominates your mind. It haunts your mind and steals your ability to stay calm and present. Every moment is characterized by temptation, making it harder to access the mental clarity and inner stillness that semen retention usually brings.
Even when you try to ignore it, the desire to ejaculate grows stronger. You might start rationalizing, convincing yourself that just one more time won’t matter, and suddenly the single relapse causes several relapses.
After relapsing, I always manage to start the semen retention journey afresh by allowing myself to ejaculate several times within a short period. Doing this completely kills the intense urge to ejaculate for a moment, which gives me a reset. This usually helps me by clearing the lingering tension in my body and mind, so I can begin retaining again with a fresh sense of control.
The only danger of this tactic is that it can result in the need to masturbate or have sex frequently, making it impossible to retain again.
Therefore, the best thing to do is to promise yourself to never relapse until you finish your streak. And in case the urge to relapse is strong, promise yourself to never relapse through masturbation. It is relapsing through masturbation that eventually ensures that you lose your progress and several benefits because it is highly addictive and can be done at any moment.
Relapsing through sex is better because it is difficult to have sex every day: either you or your partner will eventually get bored or tired. Besides, sex is a natural way of relapsing and it does not have several disadvantages compared to masturbation.
Anyway, if you just relapsed, stop worrying about losing your progress. As long as you don’t ejaculate too frequently within a long period of time, you won’t lose the benefits. Don’t be too harsh on yourself: just accept the relapse and try your best to start afresh. And remember, it’s not that bad if you relapse through sex: masturbation is the enemy because it’s addictive, it can be done several times a day, and it has several side-effects on your spiritual, mental, and physical states.